Originally Posted by Cherry
Thanks! The key word there being "apologize". Neither one of us are very good at doing that, unfortunately.... Me less than my H. And when my H does apologize, I feel it's more condescending than sincere... i.e. I'm sorry YOU did this or that... Instead of simply saying I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. I admit, I'm more than likely the culprit in things being aggravating this week... We've had some extended family problems and it came to head Monday and yesterday... I think I blame my H, and I need to refocus my energy and quit being such a B to him
We are best friends, so I just need to remember that we can calmly discuss things instead of threatening to throw the cat or dog out if you walk out of this house and leave. It's so messed up at times.
You probably have an underlying issue in your marriage. It's important you find out what it is. In my case it was sex.
I at the time knew my behaviors weren't fully right but still did them to vent, That caused my wife to turn off her emotions. So if you get really upset at your H what is the underlying NEED that you are missing in your marriage from him.
After you figure that out you need to communicate to him what it is. Once he fulfills that need you won't feel like venting so much.
Look in the mirror deeply. It starts with YOU.