Originally Posted by Cherry
Thanks. I know we do have underlying issues, quite a few of them in fact. I know I'm still recovering from the issues he created early on... And then something so silly seems to set me off... I just sometimes feel he not grateful I'm still here, with him, after all the **** he pulled. Maybe that's selfish of me because lord knows I can be difficult. Maybe my underlying need is for him to appreciate me... Which I really don't feel at times, I feel like he just needs me to pick up his pieces. i.e. fix the bank card issue. I've been picking up the pieces of his life since we got married! And then when I had a meltdown and he filed for divorce, I felt discarded. He knows all this... And I've told him, but I don't know how to not let it bother me at times still... It's been nearly 2 years since that happened and we've been back together for a year and a half. I don't know. I do know I just don't want to fight, so I guess it does start with me
You are 100% responsible for your marriage. You are 100% responsible for your feelings.
So it is all you to start... you need to get a handle on it. But it sounds like both of you need to figure this marriage out.