dadof5girls

Ok, so here is the situation. My wife and I will have been married for a year this coming December. A few weeks ago, I discovered a series of emails in-between her and a former boyfriend. They were from early to mid-August, 2010, a couple in September, a few in October, and then nothing really until this past July. It is complicated because she did tell me about the ones in August, but not again until the ones this past July. She changed her email address when we got married to one with her new last name, but never got rid of the old one, and that is the one this guy emails her on.

I really wished I had not seen the emails, but now that I have, I realize that she didn't tell me the whole truth about them. When she told me about them, originally, she stated that he had just emailed her to see what was happening, he had invited her to dinner, she said no, and she told him about me. (We have been together since summer, 2010. After reading the emails, all of that is true, but she left out the fact that she told him she still loved him, missed him, etc. Now, there is no evidence from the emails that anything other than emotional went on, and I truely believe that she loves me and hasn't cheated on me, I am very hurt and confused by the emails. I want to confront her about it, but I am worried that 1) she will not appreciate me logging into her email, which would be a valid point, and 2) I am making too big of a deal, and I just need to get over it unless the contact starts up again.

I think what hurts me the most isn't so much what was said in-between the two of them, but that she didn't tell me the whole truth about what was going on, which causes me to think that there is more there.

I think one thing that hurts the most is that in one email, the other guy, after learning about me, says that he is jealous, and my girlfriend (now wife) told him, "you have nothing to be jeolous about, you had my heart before I even met him [me]".

What I keep telling myself is that the bulk of this happened before we were even engaged, but it still really bothers me. For what it's worth, the emails in July were not quite like that, other than the other guy saying he was getting a divorce, askiing if she was in love, to which she replied that she was, that I am a good man..But then she tells him that "You have to know that I've loved you." So, I do not know....I want to confront her, but am unsure if I am making too big of a deal over it.

Thanks for reading