My husband normally takes the train in to work, but once a week or so he'll take the car if it's more convenient (like on the days he has IC at 9am). Yesterday was such a day, and it was the first opportunity for me to use the VAR I bought a week ago.
I'm still only about halfway through his drive home, but I noticed two things during the morning portions I listened to: he ordered oatmeal at a drive-thru, and while he listened to NPR on the way to his therapist's, on the way into the city, he had the radio off and my best guess was that he was listening to something on his phone (I could hear something very faint, the same way I could hear my voice when he called me on the phone to tell me he was leaving IC to go to work). I hinted around last night, trying to get him to tell me about those two things.. he said, "Oh, I got coffee in the morning but didn't get to drink it until after IC, and it was cold" and when I pushed a little more, he said, "I got a muffin, too, but never ate it." Then he insisted that he'd listened to NPR on the way in, the end of BBC and then On Point.
I have no idea why he would be lying about breakfast. Maybe he truly forgot what he'd eaten earlier in the day? No idea. The radio thing.. he had been subscribed to Sirius, but canceled it after D-Day (he'd put us in debt and we needed the money). Maybe he found some way to pay for that without telling me? I don't know what else he would have been listening to that he wouldn't have wanted me to know about.
So anyway.. my question is, do I confront him about these 'minor' issues and reveal that I have a VAR, or do I hold on to it on the off chance he is contacting the other women? I don't think he is, but obviously I'm not certain. I probably wouldn't have the chance to use the VAR until next Thursday, and the idea of going about our business as usual without confronting him about these lies sounds horrible to me.
I'm not a very patient person.
What would you do?