Originally Posted by Tover26
The value of a VAR is to get evidence for either divorce or intervention... there's another guy on this forum who got his wife having a quickie in the car with some other guy, as an example. Are most people really that aware of their breakfasts? I'm not. And if you weren't in the habit of asking me about it, it'd kind of weird me out.
If he has Sirius, take his car for a drive or call Sirius and confirm the account is closed. It's not that hard.
I think he had it on his phone, it wasn't part of the car. We only have one car, and it doesn't have Sirius. I also don't have any account info, since he said he canceled it immediately after D-Day and they stopped withdrawing from our bank account.
I'm not going to tell him about it (unless I find something on the last part of his drive home, I'm still listening--but he got home early last night, so I doubt I'll find anything).
As for the asking about his day, it wasn't obvious. He's admitted that he's kept me out of his work/social life, leading a 'double' life even when he wasn't cheating (this is something I was aware of, and complained about through most of our relationship). So we've been working to get him to share more of his day, and my questions about his breakfast and what he listened to were very much in line with that.