Originally Posted by DailyGrind
I hate to be so naive...but when I D-Day'd this with her.....I made her a deal....Come downstairs and discuss this, or I reveal to OMW immediately.
This morning I asked her what she would do when he tried contacting her. She said she would just explain it to him. I told her, WRONG ANSWER. She doesn't understand how serious this is. No Contact means NO CONTACT!
After reading all your all emails....I agree I should inform the OMW. I really find it hard to believe there will be no attempt at contact. Nothing so far, this morning...but then...she already knows her phone is suspect.
I just talked to her on the phone. I reiterated NO CONTACT...and she swore she would tell me if he tries. I had also told her this morning, before work, that I would be contacting a lawyer. She was shocked. When I just talked to her on the phone, I told her I loved her. She said "even after what you said this morning?"...meaning the lawyer. I said yes...and that I would be emailing her some options for a counselor for her to look at. She seemed hesitant. I asked her if she was changing her mind. She said..."well not if you are going to a lawyer." I told her the two issues were not related. The lawyer is for MY protection. The counselor is for OURS!
If your marriage is the number one priority then all other deals, feelings issues and so on take a back seat. Just tell her after further thought you realized you had to expose the affair and move on. Exposing the affair is not violating a deal. You guys took vows. Those trump everything else.
All is fair in love and war. This is war. Another man is trying to have sex with your wife.