| | Help!!!!!My wife wont stop crying
okay i'll try to cut a long story short without leaving out any important details.so me and my wife of 2 years(been together for 5)wont stop crying and is convinced that i hate her because i said some nasty things to her that i didnt mean.it all started when me and my wife had an argument because she wanted to leave me and our 8 month old son to stay at her mom's place.i was fine with her going to stay at her mom's,but she wanted to leave our young son with me.that would create problems because i work full time and my wife is a stay at home wife/mother.i tried to calmly explain to my wife that it would be best if she took our baby with her.but she just got mad at me and told me to "stop being so selfish" and i was like WTF "your the one who's being selfish i cant take care of our son while im at work what the hells wrong with you".she said she was "tired" i said i was tired too."but just because im tired doesnt mean i can just blow off work because i got you and the baby to provide for" i was fine with her leaving home to go stay with her mom.i was fine with her not doing not doing the house work but i was not fine with her leaving the responsibility of taking care of our son on me alone.we started arguing over the matter and it ended with me calling her a selfish *****,an aweful wife and an even worst mother.i also told i ****ing hate her and that i hope she never comes back.i also told her that i wish she wasnt the mother of my son and that i wished i had chosen her sister over her(me and her sister used to date and not to mention that she is extremely jealous of her sister)and that her sister would make a way better mother.my wife has never been and emotional person so i thought she would get over it if i said i was sorry and didnt mean.to my surprise my wife started crying i was so shocked i tried to hug her and tell i didnt mean the things i said but she just took of to go pack and leave.after she left i tried to call her on her cell but she wouldnt pick up so i just stop trying to contact her.
so for a month me and my wife had no contact.i was depressed during the first week i was so depressed i enlisted the help of my sister in law/ex girlfriend.even after we broke up we remain good friend.she moved in with me and my son.she works at a daycare center so she just took him to work with her.me and my sis in law decided that it was best if we didnt tell my wife about our arrangement expecially after what i had said to her.mind you nothing sexually happened between me and her.the only physical contact we had were hugs and kisses on the cheek.i couldnt thank her enough for all she had done for me and my son during my wife's absence.so about month later after the my wife left she shows up and walks in on me and her sister cuddling on with our son in the middle between us.i was surprised because i was planning on paying her a visit at her moms house to asked her when she was gonna come home.she ran of crying and went after her.i was on my knees begging her to come home.after taking time out to disscuss everthing and ensuring in her that i didnt sleep with her sister she deciding to come back to me and our son.
after her sister left she came came back.but there was something different about her she didnt seem as happy as she used to before the whole ordeal.so i asked what was wrong and she started to cry so i asked her why why she was cry she said its because of the nasty things i said about her.no matter what i say or do to reasure her that i love her with all my heart and think she's a wonderful mother.nothing works.this all happened in march of this year.and she's still hasnt got over things i said.she cant talk to me without crying we she could be in a room by herself happy as hell but the moment i walk in she starts crying.if i touch her she starts crying,if i try talking to her she starts crying if she looks at me she starts cry like what the hell.why cant she get over it i said i forgave but it doesnt help.im trying to be patient with my wife but im at my witts end.she doesnt want to go to therapy or any thing of that nature.all she does is cry herself to sleep to sleep every night and if i try to consolee her it only make things worst and she cries even harder.
im sorry if i went into a little bit of a rant.thanks in advance for your help.