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Originally Posted by draconis
I think you are doing the right thing but you have overlooked something. Most of the time the lies have to do with his drinking. It sounds like this is his problem and maybe AA will help. People that drink often are completely different.
draconis
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I second Daraconis' statement. Only an alcoholic would lie like that! AA definitely helps with that stuff; I'm living proof. I'm a recovering alcoholic / addict that's been sober 8 years. I used to have to lie like that to cover my addictions...it's not easy either, having to come up with BS
all the time! Being clean and sober is a much easier way of life. I don't have anything to lie about anymore
. But I had to get a sponsor, go to meetings, and do "stepwork." It took time for things to get much better, but they certainly did.
The problem is, you can't force him into AA even if he is an alcoholic. But since he has a lot of those behaviors you might want to consider
Al-Anon. Al-Anon is the other side of AA, support and help for families of those dealing with alcaholism / addicton. They teach you how to set healthy boundaries with the person who has the problem, they provide support, and they help you learn how to help your partner in ways that aren't "enabling" (contributing to the problem). IMHO Al-anon is good for people regardless of whether or not their partner is an alcoholic.