| | Re: Too Sensitive For 180?
I think you need to focus on the outcome and not the process a bit more. Your behavior has had to change to promote a change in your husband, and if you give into old habits, you're going to only attract more of the same... the stuff you DON'T want.
When he responds the way he does, you have to remind yourself that the reaction is what keeps him doing what he's doing. Your NEW reaction is going to stop that. I understand it hurts... but he's not doing anything he hasn't been doing. At some point your skin has to become like a sheild. Let his negativity roll off your back. Like water off a duck's back. If that means you grieve what he's said in secret, then you do that. Write it down in a journal... get it out any way you can, but don't let him see it. He's been taught how to hurt you.