Originally Posted by Coco8

Hi,
I've been married to a lovely man for 13 years and we have 3 kids. I never found my husband sexually attractive, but in the first few months sex was fun because we were new to each other. However, I soon resigned myself into thinking that I was just a kind of person who wasn't into sex, although we have always had a regular sexlife. Then a few years ago I met a man that I found incredibly sexually attractive. Nothing happened between us. But I had never felt like that before and I realised that I DO have sexual feelings, and that I CAN fancy a man immensely. But I don't fancy my husband at all. Ever since then I have found it hard to have sex with my husband although we continue to have sex 3 times a week. I dream of having a sensual relationship with a man that I find sexually attractive, and I don't want to live for the rest of my life without that. On the other hand, my husband is a kind and good man, and I don't want to hurt him. Also, I have so far not felt any strong sexual attraction to any other man since. (That particular man is not available to me, even if I got divorced). What can I do?? Has anyone been in a similar situation? Hope you can help, thanks!!