Originally Posted by that_girl
My daughter knew about the differences by preschool.
She knew about sex by 3rd grade because the kids at school were talking about "sex" and she didn't know what it was...i don't think they knew either. lol.
Now she's in 7th grade and we have more indepth conversations about sex and relationships and love and emotions and sexual acts, stds, etc. How I'd like for her to wait until college and in a committed relationship before having sex. We talk about protection, self respect, boys. We talk about pregnancy and how I don't want to raise grandchildren. Save it for when she can support herself.
I'm pretty open about sex with my kids.
I am EXACTLY like this ^^^ even with my sons, and I am very comfortable and amazingly , they are decently comfortable with me too ! We discovered our 13 yr old had hidden porn on his laptop , we had a very unique way of dealing with that one-that my son will forever
at. Husbands idea, and when we finally talked about it (me & him) , I made sure not to shame him, and the things that came out of his own mouth to me -very very proud of him. I know I handled it in a very decent manner. He even told me I was easy to talk too, alot easier than he thought it would be.
Kids are going to be talking anyway - too many parents make the mistake of saying NOTHING to their children, like sex is a dirty word, can never be spoken about or mentioned. My husband grew up in that type of atmosphere, can't say it did him any favors.
I'll never forget a day our family sat down to play scrabble, 1st word on the board was "AROUSE" , boys played with us, many sexual words were used ...HOT, GAY, daughter put down SEX, another one had LUST on there. We were
Just be yourself in front of your kids, if you try too much to hide every little thing or shield her eyes from every kiss on TV, it will just make her more curious and she will get other ideas from more promiscuous friends & feel peer pressure to do as they do - this is the last thing you want, and her hiding everything from you -cause she will not feel her parents are
" or worry she may feel shamed to bring it up to you -if she has questions --- this is why we MUST bring it up with them, show them they can come to us with ALL ...
I want my kids to feel the FREEDOM to come to me and share anything and everything. My oldest is 21 , he is still a virgin, and is very responsible with his sexuality, it has not hurt my children to be "open". He also got many teachings at Church, sometimes I think they are a little too Strict though, to the point of feeling much guilt for having a little "lust" and a constant need for repentence.... .I personally do not agree with that, I feel that can harm people and set them up for repression in early marriage.
Yes, Teens should wait to have sex, but still teach it is a glorious thing, nothing to be ashamed of...and what an AWESOME responsiblity
sex is, as life can be created from it, it should NEVER be taken lightly, diseases can be caught -that last a lifetime -if used carelessly and emotionally a girl can have her heart ripped out if she uses it too quickly with a guy who is simply sexually frustrated due to his raging hormones- which has nothing to do with love -no matter what comes out of his mouth in the heat of the moment. Girls especially NEED to understand what young boys are going through!!
A good book can help you get started also , maybe something like this >>>> Amazon.com: How to Talk to Your Child About Sex: It's Best to Start Early, but It's Never Too Late -- A Step-by-Step Guide for Parents (9781582380575): Linda Eyre, Richard Eyre: Books