Originally Posted by Shaggy

When you got married you created a family.

The family does own all those things.

Her expressing it the way she does, is her saying "I'm in this family, it's part of me, and I'm part of this. This forms my personal safe place, and my identity of who I am".

Ok, so you your wife isn't working on the house. You are. That's part of the magic that you contribute to the family. Do you do her home work or cover class for her? Because the work she does there is also building up the family.

I don't say suck it up, I say change how you're seeing things.