Originally Posted by Lydia
I've tried sitting down and having a serious convo with him. I've even asked him for suggestions... None. He says "I just don't have the time or energy to clean when I am home" and "since you are sitting at a desk all day, and I'm walking around all day at work - you probably have more energy than me" (which is BS, as my job is much more mentally demanding than his)...
I have heard that argument about comparing jobs. And as Janie suggested, some counseling could help here. If it's not already happening, some resentment could build up and pass over into other areas of your marriage. There is nothing more frustrating than being in the kitchen cleaning up the dinner dishes, etc. and look over to have your H glued to the TV. My H and I have successfully resolved most of the "helping" issues at home, but we also discussed it with our marriage counselor during our reconciliation process. The arguments over who works harder away from the home have halted and it is no longer an issue on the forefront of our marriage. It is worth considering. Perhaps even the mere mention of counseling to your husband because he "doesn't get it" might help him see that the issue is pretty big.