draconis

If she says he job is more important then you I believe you have the right to ask why. The reason I say this is because to her she may feel like she has done something there. At home you can only maintain love. I am surprised that she would have her job ahead of family, however you have to be the one to decide if it is worth patching up and if you want to work on the marriage.

In the end I think the only real closure you are going to get is if you communicate with her. Find out why she avoids the house to work more. Find out why she is driven at work. Learn why she hasn't wanted to be a wife.

Her goals and beliefs may well be different from yours. That was the case with my first wife. I was so busy building a future while she was lonely in the "now". She ended up cheating and we divorced. It took many months to accept my decision. It took a few years to understand that my family was more important then the worry of if we had a retirement.

draconis