Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Trying to get used to his physical touch...

Trying2figureitout · 11-16-2011, 03:55 PM

Physical touch is usually #1 or #2 on most Men's lists as far a needs almost guaranteed!

In my case it's neck and neck with quality time. (11 vs 10)

All other needs score much lower (affirmation 5, gifts 3,service 1)
5 love languages site.

So when physical touch is missing I feel significantly less love... that's why I gave my wife of 18 years a reality check with a date attached after two years of not having my needs met in the least in that regard. Also quality time was less during that period also.

Sexless mostly plus no other touch typically... that will change as we move forward... I need to know and feel she loves me and we are more than roommates.

It is not all SEX... it's about feeling close and the fact that she wants to touch me as I want to touch her. When it's missing I don't feel love nor connection and seriously question staying married to her.

So many guys fall into the same boat. Good luck.
When it's missing we think of ending even a long term marriage with kids relationship... it's that serious.

It's about thinking what your partner needs and not always yourself.

11-16-2011, 03:55 PM	#3 (permalink)
Trying2figureitout Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 1,247	Re: Trying to get used to his physical touch... Physical touch is usually #1 or #2 on most Men's lists as far a needs almost guaranteed! In my case it's neck and neck with quality time. (11 vs 10) All other needs score much lower (affirmation 5, gifts 3,service 1) 5 love languages site. So when physical touch is missing I feel significantly less love... that's why I gave my wife of 18 years a reality check with a date attached after two years of not having my needs met in the least in that regard. Also quality time was less during that period also. Sexless mostly plus no other touch typically... that will change as we move forward... I need to know and feel she loves me and we are more than roommates. It is not all SEX... it's about feeling close and the fact that she wants to touch me as I want to touch her. When it's missing I don't feel love nor connection and seriously question staying married to her. So many guys fall into the same boat. Good luck. When it's missing we think of ending even a long term marriage with kids relationship... it's that serious. It's about thinking what your partner needs and not always yourself. Last edited by Trying2figureitout; 11-16-2011 at 04:15 PM.