Originally Posted by Enchantment
Any reason why you can't give yourself a 'helping hand' with her laying next to you/holding you if she doesn't want to 'participate' in any other way?
H and I have done this often when I have been out of commission for one reason or other. You're still together - you're still being intimate - you still get at least some satisfaction - she didn't have to give a 'freebie' - and maybe it would spur her on to 'give a helping hand' some of the time.
this just seems degrading IMO I've heard others sugest it and well, I think I'd rather fantasize about the hot red head down the hall at work than beg my selfish wife to lay next to me.
maybe if she sugested it and said it turned her on then thats a different story. Its all about attitude