Originally Posted by chillymorn
this just seems degrading IMO I've heard others sugest it and well, I think I'd rather fantasize about the hot red head down the hall at work than beg my selfish wife to lay next to me.
maybe if she sugested it and said it turned her on then thats a different story. Its all about attitude
I suggest re-phrasing from 'freebies' to something else. Words are powerful tools. When you and your wife are laying in bed discussing freebies, what your really saying is: Give one to me, and I wont give one to you.
Anything that involves my wife and I, and an orgasm is sex. I let her know when Im in the mood for sex, and she does the same. This doesnt mean we have to have missionary style vaginal intercourse with the lights off... No, we have options as we use the word loosley. Maybe tonight we will have the lights on in missionary style. The possibilities are endless, but I digress.
Try that, it very well might work for you. Words... Good stuff.
I would also recommend fidning out what sex means to your wife. Some women are looking for that quick-O, and nothing more. Some women enjoy the idea of sex, and want
to fulfill their partners sexual satisfaction. Other women still have their own opinions on the matter not covered above, the possibilities are endless.
Converse, Converse, Converse. And then a little more.