My husband and I have been married for 12 years and lately there were some things that have come up from years of him being controlling and demeaning and just plain verbally and mentally abusive not horrible but still there. In the past 7 months we have not been intimate and for reasons of his behavior in the past just making the whole process a negative experience for me. Well I just recently found on his computer that he has been secretly videotaping me for his personal pleasure I assume when I am in our closet dressing and in the bathroom showering. This has been a very disturbing discovery for me and I don't know what to do next? I know I confronted him before and he told me it was wrong and he shouldn't have done it but somehow he justified it because it was in our house and it was me and not an affair or anything but it continued because i found more since he told me he wouldn't do it anymore. I just don't know what to do next??/