My fiance and I are getting married on May 23. His father just passed away on March 1st. And surprisingly my 25 year old fiance still lives at home. So to comfort his mother we are planning to live with her for somewhere under a year. Actually some family member-his aunt, says we should stay 2 years. LOL. That's highly unlikely. My fiance's mom has waited on him hand and foot for 25 years. When I first met her-two years ago, she complained about having to clean James' room. So I started demanding that he help out around the house more, and thankful he does.
Just recently I told James to start doing his own clothes, because it's ridiculous that his mom still does them anyway. Also I want him to learn some responsibility for when we move out. I also told his mom I wanted him to do his own clothes and for her to stop washing for him. She washes them anyway and when James asks her, "Mom why did you wash my clothes, you know Victoria wants me do that now?" She replied, "Just don't tell her."
I am already afraid of marriage for all of the common reasons. Now I'm concerned that I'm marrying a mommas boy. And I'm afraid that his mom is coming between us. I almost broke it off twice, because of arguments about his mom. Also we are so happy together-ordinarily. And I do love him.
Does any one have any advice? Sorry if I rambled on- I just woke up. Also I was very angry upon waking, because I can only think about how disrespectful his mom is being to me.