| | Re: Can 11 years of Cheating be Put in the Past??
He cheated on you from the moment you started dating and then after that you married him even knowing all this. I'm sorry but this has not been a real marriage, its been an open one from the start.
It's obvious from your story that your WH suffers from Sexual Addiction (SA), and that's not something you can fix. He needs to get help for that from a professional. He's not the type of person who should be married. Each time he's caught, he cries and swears he'll change, right? He can't do it on his own.
As much cheating as he's done, the lack of remorse, etc, I don't know how you can just put that in the past and sweep it under the rug. I also havent seen from your post that you've gotten tested for any STDs. Have you?
As difficult as this is, follow everyone's advice and kick him to the curb and divorce him. He's a SA cheater and will not change. If you choose not to divorce him, then you can only look forward to his behavior the rest of your life. He also will not change because he knows all he has to do is shed some crocodile tears, apologize, and you will forgive him until the next time he's caught. Wash, rinse, repeat. Is this what you want to do the rest of your life? You're suffering from a variation of battered wife syndrome, the ony difference is he's abusing you emtionally, gets caught, acts nice, and then the cycle repeats itself. Like I_Will_Survive said, you shouldn't have to be a porn start to keep your husband.
You will find a REAL MAN, not some SA who will never be faithful to you because he is broken inside.