| | Re: Thoughts? Is she cheating?
Oh man. This is as easy as Courtney Love on prom night; well, maybe not that easy.
Let's think this one through for a sec; she felt uncomfortable spending nights alone without you, yet when the idea was brought up in terms of who can check up on her, the first name out of her lips is the dude she destroyed her first marriage with? There is no reason, NO EFFIN' REASON why he should be within sniffing distance of your place, let alone spend the night while you're out of town.
While you were away on business, what do you think the two of them were up to? Do you honestly think he went over there overnight just to sleep on the couch? They had this set up for months and were only waiting for an opening; your business trip was the perfect alibi.
My man, the question you should be asking isn't whether they slept together while you were gone; we all know the answer to that one. The question you should be asking is whether you want to still be involved with someone who will never, EVER regard you as a sensual being, especially in comparison to this guy. Her AP, as admitted by her, is the best she ever had in bed, the one who give her multiples without even trying, the one she had her sexual awakening with. You, on the other hand, is regarded by her as the provider, the one who pitches in on babysitting the kids and/or the chores when she needs a break. She will never see you as anything more than that because the OM has her championship belt firmly around his waist and has been 'that guy' long before you came onto the scene.
Take it from someone who lived the same nightmare you are going through right now. There is nothing worse than living with somebody who sees you as the bronze medal winner in the bedroom. Because no matter how much she lies to you about it, she will always think back to the nights of passion she had with him, with this latest foray adding to the ledger. You'll never make her as hot taking out the trash, paying the bills, or getting her brake pads replaced.
Are you willing to be her second banana? I wasn't and is moving on with my life. As I stated before, there are plenty of others out there who would value you as gold and not as some cheap imitation.
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