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JustMe · 07-30-2007, 07:38 PM

jturn, your wife sound a little like me a few years ago (I hate to admit it though!) I don't know how old she is, but did you guys get married young? I got married at 22 (barely) and was suddenly step-mom to two beautiful boys (5 and 10 at the time). After the "glow" of marriage wore off and I was a temproary single mom to two children I didn't even give birth to, because their father (my husband) was in Iraq, I had a really hard time accepting the fact that most of the people I knew who were my age were finishing college and having alot of fun! I was lonely, stressed out, confused, scared (of my hubby not coming home), you name it, I felt it. I've grown ALOT in the last 5 years and I can't imagine life without my husband or those beautiful boys! Hubby and I went through counselling and I realized that I was being a total idiot, thinking the way I was. Since then, I have gone back to school to get an accounting degree (not easy with a family, but feels great!) and have begun horseback-riding (one of my passions) again.
I guess my point is, maybe for whatever reason, your wife is feeling pressured by something she's not ready to face yet. Then again, 13 years is an awfully long time to "be okay" and then suddenly turn. I wish you all the best! Just thought I'd share how I felt when I did feel that way.

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JustMe Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 57	Re: the dreaded "space" comment jturn, your wife sound a little like me a few years ago (I hate to admit it though!) I don't know how old she is, but did you guys get married young? I got married at 22 (barely) and was suddenly step-mom to two beautiful boys (5 and 10 at the time). After the "glow" of marriage wore off and I was a temproary single mom to two children I didn't even give birth to, because their father (my husband) was in Iraq, I had a really hard time accepting the fact that most of the people I knew who were my age were finishing college and having alot of fun! I was lonely, stressed out, confused, scared (of my hubby not coming home), you name it, I felt it. I've grown ALOT in the last 5 years and I can't imagine life without my husband or those beautiful boys! Hubby and I went through counselling and I realized that I was being a total idiot, thinking the way I was. Since then, I have gone back to school to get an accounting degree (not easy with a family, but feels great!) and have begun horseback-riding (one of my passions) again. I guess my point is, maybe for whatever reason, your wife is feeling pressured by something she's not ready to face yet. Then again, 13 years is an awfully long time to "be okay" and then suddenly turn. I wish you all the best! Just thought I'd share how I felt when I did feel that way.