Originally Posted by mr.miketastic
That's why you are not sexually attracted to him. He's a doormat. Basically he's a beta-male. I know from personal experience that women react to an alpha-male. Oh sure, you can say you don't like men like that, but I have found women say that to keep from hurting their husband's feelings when on the inside, an alpha-male makes them gooey on the inside.
Your man needs to man up. It has worked for me and countless other men as well.
Generally speaking, women don't "value" sex. Men value sex greatly. If you as his wife are not being sexual toward him you better believe totally that he feels you don't love or care about him. Now, thinking back to when you were feeling sexual, there was a reason this was the case. It was because you wanted to attract a husband, followed by you wanted to make babies.
Now that your husband told you he would rather castrate himself, and you are not in baby making mode, your sex drive has predictably died. He took off the table any motivation for you his woman to be sexual toward him, which would be to keep her family intact and her life happy.
Regardless of what your husband says about no divorce, no affairs and the like, the fact of the matter is no man is strong enough to resist the sexual force that runs inside him due to Testosterone. If he is not sexually fulfilled he will seek sexual fulfillment in one of the following ways: Divorce, Affair, Prostitutes, or Pornography. A married man will not be able to live a celibate life. God did not make men this way, and did not ordain your marriage to be celibate and non sexual.
What you have to wrap your mind around is that the role of spouse in a marriage is to meet their spouse's needs. And a person can gain great happiness and fulfillment in life by building a mutually fulfilling marriage which in turn creates great happiness inside themselves along with wonderful, happy and well adjusted children. In other words, you must connect his sexual fulfillment to your own happiness and your chilrens well being, and this will restore your motivation that was lost after the children came and he figuratively castrated himself.