Originally Posted by Mrs. T
Thank you Catherine!! Several months ago I deleted a thread that I started for that very reason. Several posters were very judgemental and rude. Since then I have come back here often to read other posts but rarely give my input. One of the things that drew me originally to this site was the feeling that you were among friends here who were trying to help out...but there are a few that don't seem to respond in the spirit of helping
I am sorry to hear that you felt so strongly about that that you felt the need to delete and that you are holding back. I would encourage you to reconsider.
This is an emotional place for good reason. Cooler heads prevail sure, but if you consider the very likely well meaning source of some responses is likely from someone that has just suffered one of the most severe, stressful and traumatic events in their lifetime.
None of us here would wish any pain on someone already suffering.
It is also human nature for some to maybe dish out a little crap to someone we totally disagree with especially when it hits a very sore spot.
Please dont take it personally when someone gets a little grumpy. If you look closely, most of those types of responses are a defense mechanism called displacement. The example used in psych class is coming home and kicking the dog because someone had a bad day.
The dog of course did nothing but that wasnt considered. Its venting up the wrong tree sure. Just remember that and the perhaps undeserved blow isnt so hard to take.
The other consideration is that we are usually asking for opinions and comparing notes for all of our benefit.
If we shut off our participation a form of self censorship is taking place and TAM becomes a less rich, less helpful place.
That would be a shame for it to come to that for the sake of avoiding a little undeserved heat.
I for one will value your contributions going forward