Originally Posted by j3nn1fer
Because she was telling me that I should be grateful for a husband like him....she doesn't know him or what intimate issues we have. Sometimes a great personality doesnt make up for a nonexsistant sex life....
I have had poeple tell me to be thankful for my husband and sometimes I needed to hear it --in the past.
With very little said about your husband other than he would never leave you no matter what you do, it is hard for the rest of us to see that "other side"- you mention here for the 1st time.
You have painted yourself as hurting your husband -admittedly- and him as suffering. I do admire that you acknowledged it was your problem -even if it still bothered me and I felt bad for him.
What is the rest of the story , what has he DONE to bring you to this place? THat would make all the difference in the world in how many answer
It makes all the sense in the world if the man is mistreating his wife, she doesn't feel loved & valued, maybe he never listens to you? for example --that she might even fall into depression & not want anything to do with him. This happens alot in marriages. How has he contributed to this breakdown, what did you need from him the MOST that he did not give to you -that led you to getting more depressed and pushing away more and more to where you then found yourself repulsed by him.
What would you say he could DO to make you want to get closer to him?
Does he side with his family over you -I seen where you said they can not respect boundaries?