Originally Posted by tigger01
Tigger, I wasn't trying to accuse you of being cold at all, quite the opposite. I think Halien and Arnold put my thoughts to words much better than what I was trying to say. For whatever issues he has had to deal with in life, there is some fear of intimacy, which does not happen with the porn, and whish is why it is easier for him to have an outlet with that instead. His problem isn't about you it's him, he isn't giving himself permission to be sexual with you.
Thank you for clarifying. We clearly both have issues and both may need some help if we want to salvage this marriage.