| | Re: My husband thinks that I dont love him because Im not affectionate.
God bless you for reaching out. Many women don't care enough to do so.
Try where possible to not take the attacks personally understand where some of these men are coming from.
In fairness (with a 10 mo old and all you have going on...) I think you deserve SOME slack. FWIW when my wife had raging hormones (not in a good way) following the birth of our children i did what i did when i was 15 to relieve things. Not perfect but, nothing is perfect.
That said understand and try to read what some of the men are saying. Your H is being a nice guy because you are going through alot.
try to take the good with the bad from the men that are hostile about the topic. Feel blessed that TAM offers you a way to get other's perspective in a totally open way. Some of their points you should take to heart. Also understand some may obviously hot have read your post carefully and/or are just looking to vent.
Having said that putting my man hat on at some point your H will resent you and your marriage regardless of the underlying reasons/contributing factors. He may not leave you or cheat on you but, it (being sexless) will likely manifest itself in other ways.
continue to address your depression clinically but, don
't rule out holistic remedies as well. Try excercise, sunlight, spending time with girlfriends, family, avoid negative people and pray, you may not get the answer you are looking for but, it may make you feel better. This is a complicated issue and don't want to simplify it.
Thanks for sharing.