| | Re: To have sex everyday or to not have sex everyday...
Hi DazednConfused2011, I am new to this site and I came across your post (I got on this site because I needed some support, in reference to the same situation as you). I was wondering if any of the suggestions worked or did you actually tell him how you felt and his reaction to what you said.
I made a post on yesterday in the sex and marriage forum needing suggestions on how to handle the same deal. Fourtanley my husband doesnt wake me up (ANYMORE) at 3 and 5 am because he need to wake up at 4am to get ready for work, however I cant even count the days he has actually has waken me up in the wee hours in the morning for sex. HOWEVER as soon as he gets off from work and reach home at 5pm by 7by he has had his first "fix" and wants more by 10pm before he lay down for the night. His daily schedule may consisit of waking, working, F**king, eating, video game, F**king, sleeping...and starting over the next day the same routine. And of course (like you) I enjoy it as much as the next guy, however (to me) when it starts getting into a routine and begins to feel like a daily task or chore it bothers me ESPECIALLY when he gets upset when I try to sit down and talk to him about it, and how I feel that it is unselfish of him to not to think about me and how I feel when it come down to sex EVERYDAY! We DONT use/need toys, he watches porn just as much as I do, where that is not a factor (for which I dont think, to me is like watching a regular NBC 8pm line-up, it doesnt affect us like that, we BOTH believe its something fun to watch, where we both dont get turned on or excited from it, we watch it because we both like it...its really nothing behind the porn watching) we dont play sex games or nothing crazy like that for which we/I both think is a waste of time. I got things to do and really dont have time for all the extra cirrcular bed room activites. When its time to do it, I like to get straight to the punch. However there are no sexully limitations in the bed room whatever he wants to try or do WE DO IT as long as it consist of me and him. HOWEVER AGAIN, the everyday sexual desire kills me....and the lady on here that stated she went through a 8 month sex spell... I THANK YOU FOR YOUR POST!!!! however you also stated that you and your H did not have sex everyday (even though he wanted to) I think if you guys had sex everyday, i dont think you would have went through that spell.
I too hate to tell him no, just because he reacts just like your H (A spoiled brat that can not have his way) and being a mother when you see a spolied brat that is crying,screaming and yelling because they cant have there way the first thing you want to do is beat the hell out of a kid. And that honestly be the first thing I want to do to him is punch him dead in the face for acting childish over something that he gets EVERYDAY! We have been married for 12 years and started having sex about 4-5 times a week, but until a year ago its been 6-7 times a week. Since OCT 19th it has been EVERYDAY!!! And of course the minute I say hubby Im tired I just wanna go to sleep, it turns into...oh who did you have sex with today(WHAT???? ARE YOU SERIOUS????) anyway...DazednConfused2011, I feel your pain and I completely understand I really just want some ansewrs, guidance and prayers.... I am going to check out those books that the 8 month spell lady suggested.
BTW... I am 33 years old with a 14 year old.