Originally Posted by RDJ
I believe that the friendship part of our marriage is important.
We talk, we listen, we laugh, we have fun, and we enjoy each otherís company. That to me is friendship.
But it does not complete our marriage. I also desire a wife/partner.
That part of our marriage comes down to wanting her to respect me, admire me, build me up in place of tearing me down, cherish me and our marriage, love me, and support me through thick and thin.
It comes down to our wedding vows. Love, honor, cherish, in sickness and in health, through good times and bad. You get the idea!
I have found that the best way for me to receive these things from my wife, is to first, give them!
Thats my thought?
Thanks for explaining it so well. Unfortunately, she even acknowledges that part of the problem was that I was pretty extreme in treating her this way, so she just more or less came to take it for granted. In her mindset, the man carries most of the responsibility for engaging. Now, she's more open to the idea of sharing reponsibility, but thinks she'll just fail.