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SageMother · 07-30-2007, 10:22 PM

I think it is always a mistake to focus on drinking when it is obviously a symptom of something else. If you can't find out why she is self medicating then there's no point expecting her to stop drinking.

It might be best to discover what that issue is first, before you think about patching things up. When you say that "she wants to work things out too" are you speaking from what you have heard her say when she's sober or are you assuming you know what she wants?

07-30-2007, 10:22 PM	#3 (permalink)
SageMother Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 166	Re: can you help me save my marriage I think it is always a mistake to focus on drinking when it is obviously a symptom of something else. If you can't find out why she is self medicating then there's no point expecting her to stop drinking. It might be best to discover what that issue is first, before you think about patching things up. When you say that "she wants to work things out too" are you speaking from what you have heard her say when she's sober or are you assuming you know what she wants?