Originally Posted by losing_hope
This is great. I've heard of that technique before. Basically like a safe word of sorts, or it could be even non-verbal. And maybe even I could let my wife know when she's in a good mood that if I ever felt that way, this is what I'll do.
And at that point, we both agree to just take a time out. That we don't need to get the issue(s) resolved right there and then. And that it doesn't mean that either side is right or wrong, that we will get back to it.
I think practicing it will be important though. Because in the heat of the moment, I would forget it.
Practicing it is important. There is no way I could have used the technique without the practice.
I believe you said that your wife has issues with your behavior as well. Even if these concerns are manifestations of her illness, she could learn to use the technique as well. That way when she preceives a problem she can say stop and go off to her own quite time. It might be one way for you to get great insight into what is going on in her mind and the 'preceived' love busting.
Just some further thoughts.