Originally Posted by ChubbieOwl
I have been with my husband for 9 years now and married 4 of those 9. I knew very quickly that I loved him and wanted to marry him. I am very happy with him and our relationship and our sex life. I love him as much today as the day we got married (well probably more now that we have a child together.)
I'm not here to brag though, I have one concern: Sometimes I develop "crushes" on other men. I work 50+ hours a week managing a retail store and I am constantly around a lot of men and I am the only female manager on our staff, so I am usually "one of the guys."
Naturally, working around people for long times, I start to get to know them and develop friendships with them. Then, every now and then I start to feel a little more than friendship.
I will look forward to working with that person, I will sometimes think of them outside of work, or even sometimes fantasize about them. (And by "them", I don't mean a bunch of men at one time LOL, I mean this has happened to me a couple times over the years.)
Nothing ever comes of it, I never act on my feelings besides maybe a little playful flirting, but nothing that would be inappropriate for work. I have never even considered cheating on my husband and all I can think is how badly I would be hurt if our roles were reversed and I found out.
Has this happened to other women? Is it just a normal part of being alive, as long as I can exercise my will power, or does it mean something???
My opnion - As long as the person you are crushing on never finds out and you don't act on it, I think it would be harmless.
TBH - I would believe the playful flirting would be borderline EA... How would you feel if he was playfully flirting with other women?
Just my 2 cents