Originally Posted by BALANCE
I did call her on it, and basically told her she doesn't get to decide what my needs are. Her "last word" was, "I hear what you are saying and I know that YOU think it is a need."
If it is a real need it doesn't seem like I should just let it go, but if I push it and make her feel obligated to do it she'll just resent me more.
Tonight, I'm going to try really hard not to argue about it. I'm just putting it out there, "To feel loved I need physical affection and to to have sex." I guess the rest is really her responsibility. Then I just really need to be on the ball about meeting her needs.
And go one more step by saying that you want to emotionally meet her needs and you are willing to wait as long as it takes for her to feel the need to be emotionally connected to you to. Might sound a little manipulative but I am assuming that minus the "as long as it takes" part you feel that...and in fact if you do feel that she SHOULD sense it and hopefully ya won't need to wait for toooo much longer.