stevewsc

well she has drank for the last couple years on occation. not daily though. back in fedurary she had a falling out with her mother at work. her mother told her to go find a new job. she said" if you think you sorry a&^ husband is gonna pay you bills your wrong". well after two days at home she sasked me to help her. i explained to her that i didnt have any extra money. i said it takes all i make to kep the house and bills afloat. now she was drinking on an almost daily basis through this. she ended up going back to work for her parents 2 weeks later. and by doing so it made everything her mother said about me true. she has allways taken her mothers word over mine on anything. i say no momma says yes. i said no pool momma buys her a pool. i say no new car. momma buys her a minni van. i can not afford to do these things that she has been used to all her life. but her dad had tripple bypass lastyear around this time. it didnt effect her much but in march she learned about his possibility of having canser. we her parents became very broke. momm couldnt do as she allways has with giving her money. my wife ran up 16,000 in credit cards over the last year without my knowlege. i took all her cards and cut them up. two days later she comes home with her mothers card in her purse. see momma is going to whatever she can to keep herself at number one. but now that she cant because of money issues is why i think my wife is so upset. reality is really commming down on her fast. i dont blame her totally for the past but i can put most of the blame on her mother. alot of it is they way she was raised. she is 29 and her sister is 27 and they are still mostly dependant on their parents. well i talked to her lastnight. i asked if there was anything i or we could do to work through this. she said no that too much has been done in the past. she said had i not have called the police that night we could make it work. she said it hurt her to the core for them children to see her being taken off. so here i am blaming myself. i audio recorded her that night and on a couple of other occations. she went and told everyone we knew that i pushed her to that point the night the police came. and that i shoved her to the ground. which wasnt true. so i let most of them hear the tape to clear myself. well this has also backfired on me. my wife said she doesnt know who to trust looking over her shoulder worring. she said she is too hurt to work things out with me. she wants me to just move on and date if i have to make it easier on me. she said i love you and i miss you but you just have to let me go. just be the daddy you used to be to them kids. she cried i cried. i dont know what to do. i talked to her sister later on that night and she said just give her a couple months. she said she is still mad about eveything and that she cant make rational decisions untill she get over being mad. she said steve just give her time thats all i can say. so i guess all i can do now is be there for her if she needs me to watch the kids and spend as much time as i can with my kids. and try not to upset her anymore. what do you think?