demora

I hear what you are saying stav. I do love my husband very much, but there's been so much going on lately between us..

I don't talk about my mom's problems with him very often, unless something serious comes up, or like her upcoming surgery. I let him know about it and what it was for, but I don't go into great detail unless he asks. I do make a very concious effort to not let my mom's problems interfere with our time together, and I when I have to go to the hospital in the middle of the night, I don't ask him to come with me. He is always invited when we have dinner or hang out.

I guess that I would chose my mom over him if he gave me an ultimatum because while I do love him very much, I refuse to abandon my mom to appease anyone. She doesn't resent the time I spend with him and she doesn't cop an attitude if I have to skip a night visiting because my husband and I have plans (which does happen). I don't feel it's fair of a spouse to make their mate chose between the relationship with them, or the mate's family. I believe that when you marry, you get the whole package deal...kids, dogs, parents, etc.