Originally Posted by Needing Advice
revitalized husband: I did not have unprotected sex and I know the ppl I slept with very well. I'm 100% sure neither of them have HIV or AIDS. I didnt sleep with them without getting their paperwork first. I may have been stupid ... but I'm not dumb enough to put my life or his in danger.
If you didn't have unprotected sex then why the need to "get tested" like you said you did to make sure you weren't bringing anything back to your husband?
You can never be 100% sure someone doesn't have HIV, they could have slept with someone a week before you and got infected even though their last HIV test came back negative.
You really got their previous STD test results/paperwork from them before you slept with them? You are 1 in a million if you really did that, but that doesn't change the fact that there was still a chance they were infected.
A negative test just means the HIV levels are either 0 or undetectable at that time. Only possible way to know for sure is to get an HIV test, sleep with NO ONE for 6 months, and then get another test, if both come back negative then you are clear.
I guess technically you could skip the first test, just sleep with no one for 6 months and then get tested. Either way I highly doubt the 2 men hadn't had sex with anyone else for 6 months before their HIV test paperwork that they showed you, and even if they did I'm sure they probably had sex between that test and when they had sex with you.
All I'm getting at is that there is no 100% way to know they didn't have it.
Oh, and condoms are not 100% either.
I'm not trying to "bash" you, just saying that there's no possible way to know 100% that someone doesn't have HIV, and you getting tested that soon after the affairs if you were infected, wouldn't show up at all yet. You would need tested again a few months down the road from the affair.
Edit: Again, please don't think I'm coming down on you, I am as surprised as Marina that your husband is that upset about it since you guys were "separated" at the time along with the fact that he was chatting up other women online. If I had to guess he's so mad/defensive to hide the fact that he probably slept with someone while you were separated too. If he keeps the focus on you, he doesn't have to admit what he did.