stav

It's sad that you work so hard to keep the family together and everyone satisfied, but nobody bothers about how things are for you.

What exactly is your husband's disability? It's just that he seems well enough to run around spending money, driving, shopping etc. that I wonder what is keeping him from working.

It might do him good to have something to focus on. The excessive spending is probably partly due at least, to him being bored at home doing nothing.

I wonder if it is worth you sitting down with your Mother in Law and having a long talk with her, about all your worries, and point out the lies he has told about needing money, to get some from them. Tell her everything. You may find you have an ally in your attempts to set him on the straight and narrow. So far they only know his version of events.