Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - After 17 years is it wrong to just want out?

A Good Husband · 02-27-2008, 10:03 AM

I haven't been married as long as you, but I definitely understand the need to keep things interesting.

Do the two of you go on dates?

Do you plan time alone together?

When was the last time you sat down and had a heart to heart talk?

To be blunt, I don't think separation is the answer if the problem is just a lack of romance. If there's abuse then yeah, take off. A lack of romance, however, would be a problem that stems from both of you (in most cases). From the minimal amount of information given in you opening post, I would say that you need to suck it up and really work at it - create some romance. There are lots of relationship books out there and I would recommend starting with The Five Love Languages. Re-learn how to communicate with each other.

02-27-2008, 10:03 AM	#6 (permalink)
A Good Husband Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 28	Re: After 17 years is it wrong to just want out? I haven't been married as long as you, but I definitely understand the need to keep things interesting. Do the two of you go on dates? Do you plan time alone together? When was the last time you sat down and had a heart to heart talk? To be blunt, I don't think separation is the answer if the problem is just a lack of romance. If there's abuse then yeah, take off. A lack of romance, however, would be a problem that stems from both of you (in most cases). From the minimal amount of information given in you opening post, I would say that you need to suck it up and really work at it - create some romance. There are lots of relationship books out there and I would recommend starting with The Five Love Languages. Re-learn how to communicate with each other. __________________ A Good Husband - What does it take to be A Good Husband? Get some ideas here.