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Sweetiepie27 · 02-27-2008, 06:49 PM

Hi,

I am not a man but I have my share of experience and I hope that painful experience would help you. This is my story:

When I was 24 I met the man of my dreams. After an idyllic romance I found out he had cheated on me. I forgave him because he swore he would never do that again. Then he proposed. I thought that meant he really loved me and wanted to put the past in the past...I couldn't be more wrong.

3 months before the wedding he sent me an e-mail -yes, he didn't even have the courage to tell me face to face- telling me he had cheated on me and no longer wanted to be with me. I was devastated. I had to figure out what I'd done wrong, and why she was better than me. In my stupid obsession, I was more determined to gain him back and prove he loved ME and not her.

When he cheated on her, I realized than once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater. I was so damaged emotionally, I needed therapy. My therapist then told me women are competitive by nature, and we fight to gain the prize -a man- without even considering if he's worth the fight.

And about the claim that he did that because he's a man and he needed to get it out of his system is just BS.

02-27-2008, 06:49 PM	#17 (permalink)
Sweetiepie27 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Maine Posts: 6	Re: Online Affair. I'm new please help. Hi, I am not a man but I have my share of experience and I hope that painful experience would help you. This is my story: When I was 24 I met the man of my dreams. After an idyllic romance I found out he had cheated on me. I forgave him because he swore he would never do that again. Then he proposed. I thought that meant he really loved me and wanted to put the past in the past...I couldn't be more wrong. 3 months before the wedding he sent me an e-mail -yes, he didn't even have the courage to tell me face to face- telling me he had cheated on me and no longer wanted to be with me. I was devastated. I had to figure out what I'd done wrong, and why she was better than me. In my stupid obsession, I was more determined to gain him back and prove he loved ME and not her. When he cheated on her, I realized than once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater. I was so damaged emotionally, I needed therapy. My therapist then told me women are competitive by nature, and we fight to gain the prize -a man- without even considering if he's worth the fight. And about the claim that he did that because he's a man and he needed to get it out of his system is just BS.