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R.J. · 12-09-2011, 04:11 PM

OMG Kissjo. I dream of affairs so much that it's difficult for me to separate reality from fantasy sometimes. LOL!!! I'm lacking so much affection that I worry if I encountered the wrong man, I might fall into temptation. I try my best to avoid it by all means. I've never done anything at all, but I do fantasize about it all of the time. Additionally, there are times when things are quiet and cool, but most of the time I stare at him and think, "my goodness why did I do this to myself?"
I too had second thoughts at the last minute. However, I hate to admit this but I didn't want to let so many people down so I went through with it. Also I thought things would get better once we were official. WTH was I thinking???

I CANNOT believe the relationship you have with your husband's ex-wife. That's the type of relationship that I tried to establish with my husband's ex, but she's such a rat that she wouldn't even consider it. When a woman is confident about herself, she doesn't need to act ugly towards her ex's new love, especially when she doesn't even want him any longer (or perhaps she does). I had absolutely no problem with her. I wasn't intimidated by their past at all, but I can't say the same for her.

Although I'm only 29, I feel 92. I'm not getting any younger and I want a family. I know it wouldn't be fair to bring a child into this world in my current situation. Furthermore, I don't want a situation where if my husband and I divorce, he'd be trapped into my life forever. Once we're divorced, I never want to see him again.

12-09-2011, 04:11 PM	#12 (permalink)
R.J. Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: US Posts: 97	Re: When do you realize it's never going to work and let it go? OMG Kissjo. I dream of affairs so much that it's difficult for me to separate reality from fantasy sometimes. LOL!!! I'm lacking so much affection that I worry if I encountered the wrong man, I might fall into temptation. I try my best to avoid it by all means. I've never done anything at all, but I do fantasize about it all of the time. Additionally, there are times when things are quiet and cool, but most of the time I stare at him and think, "my goodness why did I do this to myself?" I too had second thoughts at the last minute. However, I hate to admit this but I didn't want to let so many people down so I went through with it. Also I thought things would get better once we were official. WTH was I thinking??? I CANNOT believe the relationship you have with your husband's ex-wife. That's the type of relationship that I tried to establish with my husband's ex, but she's such a rat that she wouldn't even consider it. When a woman is confident about herself, she doesn't need to act ugly towards her ex's new love, especially when she doesn't even want him any longer (or perhaps she does). I had absolutely no problem with her. I wasn't intimidated by their past at all, but I can't say the same for her. Although I'm only 29, I feel 92. I'm not getting any younger and I want a family. I know it wouldn't be fair to bring a child into this world in my current situation. Furthermore, I don't want a situation where if my husband and I divorce, he'd be trapped into my life forever. Once we're divorced, I never want to see him again.