SadWifeinBama

My husband and I have been married for almost 22 years. We have 2 children ages, 18 and 15. I have been unhappy the past 8 years but have not left because of the kids. My husband is very irritable and short-fused. Although he has never been physically abusive, I think his outbursts of temper could be classified as verbally abusive. He always says I am the one who is to blame and that I am the irritable one. I have tried to stay for the kids but lately my 15 year old has stated that he cannot live with his dad the way he is much longer. My son says "Dad is always mad and Mom is always sad". I am so upset. I really think my husband suffers from clinical depression (he has the signs/symptoms) but he refuses to see a doctor about it. Please help! What would you do in my situation?