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Originally Posted by LoveCloud  I have met with a lawyer and he's informed me that I can't kick her out, I can't change the locks, I have to maintain status quo (although I don't have to pay for hotel rooms or lunch for her boyfriend, but it's tough to stop those particular charges on the credit card if she's allowed to use it for day-to-day stuff as usual). |
You cancel all credit cards. It sucks, I know. She is a cheating wh0re, and you will end up getting to become an every other weekend dad, and pay that s!ut child support.
So she gets to cheat on you and come out of it smelling like a rose, and you get the shaft. Nice huh.
But one thing you can do is know that she is only entitled to half the marital assets and child support. Nothing more. The only way she will get more is if you agree to it just to get things over and done. Do NOT do that. You have your lawyer hold firm on everything. Do NOT let her have more than she is entitled to.
And you could fight for custody, but unfortunately, being a cheating dirtbag isn't reason enough to get custody. Unless she is abusing the kids, neglecting them, or she is a criminal or drug abuser, she WILL get custody. She is the mother. Fathers get screwed.
So unless your attorney thinks you have a better chance than not of getting custody, don't waste your efforts there.
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It's beyond frustrating though that she can have her cake and can eat it too. I've tried outright ignoring her; she gets pissed at me and claims I have no respect for her.
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Uh, she is a cheater. She doesn't deserve respect.
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I've tried pouring out my heart, but she says that there is no way I should love her after what's she's done and she could never love me after that.
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She is right. I was the same slobbering all over the wife mess that you are. Your desperation soon gets replaced with anger. And you may be wanting to pour your heart out now, but you will feel like calling her all the names she is worthy of later.
Trust me, you will never trust her again, and you would live a life of suspicion with a sorry excuse for a woman like this.
There IS a better life out there for you. And when you are out in the dating world again, you'll feel silly for wasting your tears on her in the first place.
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In fact, she says she has no love for me now at all, only hatred
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Then why does the dumb airhead care if you ignore her or not?
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and that the only thing I have over her boyfriend is money and a job.
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Ignore her. Tell her anything she has to say to you can be done through the attorneys. Do NOT talk to her from this point out. Let your attorney handle business for you.
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Anyone had any success with 180 or any other strategy when their spouse was so filled with hatred as soon as their affair was exposed?
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Why would you want a 180 from a woman like this?
*sigh* Oh man. One of your buddies needs to take you out for a beer and give you the V8 slap upside the head to get you to man up. Better yet, a buddy of yours needs to take you out and get you laid. Cuz if he does that, you will be all over getting rid of that huss of a wife of yours.
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I think my family deserves that I make every possible attempt at salvaging something that I cherished so much before giving up.
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Your family deserved a mother that kept her legs closed to another man.
But my man, you do what you want. I can guarantee you if for some reason you get her to stop the affair and stay, you will be happy with that for a while. Until you start thinking clearly and the resentment starts building. Because how could one NOT have resentment for an obvious unscrupulous disrespectful woman like this?
