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kaelcarp · 08-02-2007, 09:56 AM

Obviously, the first situation that has to be addressed, I think, is the drinking. Of course, in order to do that, the parental issue has to be addressed as well, since they are enabling her.

In some ways, I am going through similar things with my wife now (not the drinking, but the parental issues), only I am the one with the parental issues. It is very difficult to break from one's parents when they have been steady providers for one's whole life. I know because that's what I've had. They have helped me through lots of crises, and I feel indebted to them. And that indebtedness hinders my ability to separate from them and deal with issues between them and my spouse.

Perhaps the best thing would be to seek counseling, if she is willing. Sometimes a third party is needed to set things straight in the mind of the other person if she can't bring herself to listen to you.

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kaelcarp Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: New York City Posts: 12	Re: can you help me save my marriage Obviously, the first situation that has to be addressed, I think, is the drinking. Of course, in order to do that, the parental issue has to be addressed as well, since they are enabling her. In some ways, I am going through similar things with my wife now (not the drinking, but the parental issues), only I am the one with the parental issues. It is very difficult to break from one's parents when they have been steady providers for one's whole life. I know because that's what I've had. They have helped me through lots of crises, and I feel indebted to them. And that indebtedness hinders my ability to separate from them and deal with issues between them and my spouse. Perhaps the best thing would be to seek counseling, if she is willing. Sometimes a third party is needed to set things straight in the mind of the other person if she can't bring herself to listen to you.