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CWM0842 · 12-15-2011, 01:48 PM

My wife and I have been married for about 1.5 years. Our sex life has gradually declined and in the last six months plummeted drastically. Once a month. Not to force you to read other threads, but I previously posted a thread that described the situation in great detail.

Everything else about our relationship seems fine. She is still physically affectionate and open in general with me. We spend lots of time together. Other than work, she is basically never away from me. If there's an errand to be run when we're at home, I'd do it or we'd do it together. Pretty much any social event we go together. The only time outside of work that we're apart is the few nights a week I go to the gym. She runs at home on our treadmill.

We know each other's email and fb password. Never anything in those I've seen. She leaves herself logged in all the time. I don't have access to her work email, but it is connected to her phone and I have looked on it a few times and there was never anything supsicious. She isn't protective of her phone at all. Occasionally (definitely not every day, and she does get after hours work emails) she will take it into the bathroom, typically if she is in the middle of a work email. She isn't in there any extra time. At about the same frequency she will take the computer (mine/ours) into the bathroom if she is in the middle of looking at something on the internet. And, these are things she was sitting right next to me looking at. Her work computer comes home but she tends not to use it home I assume cause mine is already right where we hang out.

There is only 1, if I reached 2, men at work that could come close to being potential affair participants. One is her boss, whom she gets along with well. She doesn't talk about him excessively or not talk about him. Sometimes he will call her at home for work and the conversation never sounds strange. If anything was going on, it would be completely contained at work. He's older and married with teenage kids but is still somewhat forward with women. My wife has mentioned things he's said/done here and there but acts turned off. He has potentially cheated with a prior younger employee a couple years ago. I've met him and there's nothing objectionable about him.

Sometimes, at least once a week, she will shower after work. She says it's cause she feels gross sitting all day. Note that on some of the days she doesn't shower it's cause she's running and then showers later. There are some random clothes in her back seat but she's said that's cause she's had to change in the middle of the day into more comfortable clothes (we are both in the same profession where there are times you have to wear suits, but not daily, although I have never bothered to change in a similar situation).

Really, the only signs I have are potentially the showering, but mainly the lack of sex. I'm guessing no but is there any chance of an affair?

12-15-2011, 01:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
CWM0842 Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 56	Any chance there's an affair?? My wife and I have been married for about 1.5 years. Our sex life has gradually declined and in the last six months plummeted drastically. Once a month. Not to force you to read other threads, but I previously posted a thread that described the situation in great detail. Everything else about our relationship seems fine. She is still physically affectionate and open in general with me. We spend lots of time together. Other than work, she is basically never away from me. If there's an errand to be run when we're at home, I'd do it or we'd do it together. Pretty much any social event we go together. The only time outside of work that we're apart is the few nights a week I go to the gym. She runs at home on our treadmill. We know each other's email and fb password. Never anything in those I've seen. She leaves herself logged in all the time. I don't have access to her work email, but it is connected to her phone and I have looked on it a few times and there was never anything supsicious. She isn't protective of her phone at all. Occasionally (definitely not every day, and she does get after hours work emails) she will take it into the bathroom, typically if she is in the middle of a work email. She isn't in there any extra time. At about the same frequency she will take the computer (mine/ours) into the bathroom if she is in the middle of looking at something on the internet. And, these are things she was sitting right next to me looking at. Her work computer comes home but she tends not to use it home I assume cause mine is already right where we hang out. There is only 1, if I reached 2, men at work that could come close to being potential affair participants. One is her boss, whom she gets along with well. She doesn't talk about him excessively or not talk about him. Sometimes he will call her at home for work and the conversation never sounds strange. If anything was going on, it would be completely contained at work. He's older and married with teenage kids but is still somewhat forward with women. My wife has mentioned things he's said/done here and there but acts turned off. He has potentially cheated with a prior younger employee a couple years ago. I've met him and there's nothing objectionable about him. Sometimes, at least once a week, she will shower after work. She says it's cause she feels gross sitting all day. Note that on some of the days she doesn't shower it's cause she's running and then showers later. There are some random clothes in her back seat but she's said that's cause she's had to change in the middle of the day into more comfortable clothes (we are both in the same profession where there are times you have to wear suits, but not daily, although I have never bothered to change in a similar situation). Really, the only signs I have are potentially the showering, but mainly the lack of sex. I'm guessing no but is there any chance of an affair?