Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Frustrated and Confused- please help.

trdn168 · 03-02-2008, 05:59 PM

I would like to start by saying I love my wife very much and want US to improve our marriage. My wife and I have been married for about 1 1/2 years. Our sexual relationship was never all that spontaneous or great (even before marriage), but it was at least good before we were married. I have always wanted it more than her. But, to her credit she never said no. I just wanted her to have a little interest as well.

We have not had sex since June. I am frustrated and feel rejected. My wife shows little to no interest in a sexual relationship...she says she is not feeling "connected" with me right now, but won't say why or what I can do to make things better. Do I just need to be more creative and "earn" affection from my wife? I don't think that is how a healthy marriage works, but I have been wrong before.

I work from home. My wife has a very good job, is dedicated to her career right now, and tends to work long hours at the office. We do not have any children.

We have a cleaning service for our home. I do the remaining chores (most of the time) like laundry, cooking, shopping, taking care of the finances, and taking care of the home maintenance. I am glad to do those things since my wife does work hard. All I am asking for is a healthy sex life. Is that too much?

Yes, I know I need to romance her and make love, not just have sex. I am all about that. As a matter of fact, that is the only kind of sex that we have. There is no such thing as a quickie. As a man, I would of course like to have a bit of both.

I also understand that this is only one side of the view, so it is tough to truely know the scenario without both of our views. I talked her into seeking some outside guidance but we have not gone yet.

Any suggestions? THANK YOU!

03-02-2008, 05:59 PM	#1 (permalink)
trdn168 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 1	Frustrated and Confused- please help. I would like to start by saying I love my wife very much and want US to improve our marriage. My wife and I have been married for about 1 1/2 years. Our sexual relationship was never all that spontaneous or great (even before marriage), but it was at least good before we were married. I have always wanted it more than her. But, to her credit she never said no. I just wanted her to have a little interest as well. We have not had sex since June. I am frustrated and feel rejected. My wife shows little to no interest in a sexual relationship...she says she is not feeling "connected" with me right now, but won't say why or what I can do to make things better. Do I just need to be more creative and "earn" affection from my wife? I don't think that is how a healthy marriage works, but I have been wrong before. I work from home. My wife has a very good job, is dedicated to her career right now, and tends to work long hours at the office. We do not have any children. We have a cleaning service for our home. I do the remaining chores (most of the time) like laundry, cooking, shopping, taking care of the finances, and taking care of the home maintenance. I am glad to do those things since my wife does work hard. All I am asking for is a healthy sex life. Is that too much? Yes, I know I need to romance her and make love, not just have sex. I am all about that. As a matter of fact, that is the only kind of sex that we have. There is no such thing as a quickie. As a man, I would of course like to have a bit of both. I also understand that this is only one side of the view, so it is tough to truely know the scenario without both of our views. I talked her into seeking some outside guidance but we have not gone yet. Any suggestions? THANK YOU!