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My husband had an appt with his lawyer yesterday to bring paperwork in. I was with my husband so he had me come in. It ended up to be a meeting with him and his lawyer.

Our divorce has been on hold for a little bit to allow us to breath as we have been wanting to work on our marraige.

Everything was going good and my H I think was even going to drop the whole entire divorce, or so he told me. Then a woman surfaced and he started acting really weird. He did admit the affiar last Tuesday, he said it was sex only once and it was in SEptember, but he still talked to the woman as a friend and she wanted more. We are going to MC sessions and he does want to work on us. We are both actually cheated and both have admitted it. We are both trying to get over.

So the lawyer is going to call me for a dediation date and I guess wea re doing everything involoved in a divorce, yet we are talking about being together. It is good that child suppport will be fairly decided because my husband has been going off of what was set at out restrainiing order hearing(restraining order dismissed now) and out of that money he was telling me I had to pay for auto pays that come out of the acct that he puts support in. He said I agreed to pay them, which I did not. He was ordered to pay all bills, while he maintained for the last 4 months that I am required to pay Auto Insurance, his life insurance and our home warranty plan. So I'm glad the courts will decide on Child Support so he can stop blaming me and telling me I don't know how to pay my bills.

My H says he is continuing with the divorce plans just in case things don't work out and then he would have to start all over again. He mentioned in the meeting in case I decided to try to kill him. I guess he is thinking since his affair is out there that I might get very violent with him or we might fight a lot. I don't want to fight with him, I just want to forgive him as he is forgiving me and slowly heal and move on.

He has mentioned gettgin a divorce and then gettign remarried, but has not said this lately...his lawyer did mention it as an option yesterday. I for sure don't want to do that.

I just can't imagine us working on our marriage even tot he point of living together again before final hearing and then going to final hearing and my HUsband saying Yes he wanted the divorce.

Is it possible to not even get to the hearing date with a divorce if working on reconsiling??