| | Re: Had a meeting with H's lawyer yesterday
NO I have never been violent to him (he is beleiving all these stories about BW's from his work buddies)
The restraining order was in place because of a huge huge mess. I am very much partly to blame about it. Our marrage has been a huge mess for a very long time because my parents had been brain washing me for years making me afraid of everything my husband did. My husband is not a perfect man and yes he gets very frustrated. My paretns have used every situation to make it seem bigger deal that it is. I have never been hit or beaten by my husband, but it has been yelling and throwing things. Restraining order came about becuase he was trying to figure out about what I was hiding with my affair. So I take some blame for the restraining order. I was also pushed by parents for years to divorce him and they said this needed to happen.
My parents is really not an excuse on my part. You don't know how screwed up my side of the family is. During all this seperation I have learned about some things my parents did to me to keep me away from my Biological Father. They were trying to do the same for my children and for me to stay away from my husband.
This whole story deserves a post of its own, but I'm not sure where it should go.
My husband is also very afraid of my controlling parents, he is afraid I will go back to believeing them if they can get me on thier side again.