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couple · 12-18-2011, 03:26 PM

and I agree with Susan. Many men struggle privately with this and many women hide their pasts with shame.

Perhaps FYD is correct that many men can't handle this but many can. The answer is not to hide this very important facet of one's sexuality. I can't imagine being married to someone and not knowing anything about their sex life prior to me. It's not just about 'the number' but about their experiences in general. There is clearly not one right answer for every couple but hiding important aspects to one's past (i.e. their formative sexuality) or treating it as taboo territory doesn't seem very healthy to me.

12-18-2011, 03:26 PM	#19 (permalink)
couple Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 333	Re: Unbalanced past and I agree with Susan. Many men struggle privately with this and many women hide their pasts with shame. Perhaps FYD is correct that many men can't handle this but many can. The answer is not to hide this very important facet of one's sexuality. I can't imagine being married to someone and not knowing anything about their sex life prior to me. It's not just about 'the number' but about their experiences in general. There is clearly not one right answer for every couple but hiding important aspects to one's past (i.e. their formative sexuality) or treating it as taboo territory doesn't seem very healthy to me.