tragic

I hate to break it to you but it sounds to me like your husband is comparing you to someone else. Its a ****ty position to be in but you need to slap on a pair of cajones and take your marriage back.

Caring for children IS WORK. You might not be getting paid for it but just because this society doesn't attribute economic value into raising children doesn't me its not work.

At present you have two jobs, one full time and one part time and you need to slap some awareness into your husbands head and make him realize that most kids out there are institutionalized at a very young age and shuffled through a capitalistic society that encourages women to dump their kids in day care and get back to work ASAP because you don't count in this society unless you are paying taxes.

I have three kids and let me tell you, whether women are willing to admit it or not, there's a huge difference in the way kids are raised when the parent stays home and the way it goes down when the parent goes to work. You think of all these tired folks dragging themselves home at the end of the day, and it might shock you to realize that your child has been stuck in day care probably an hour more than your day has gone.

I know its not popular to talk about how staying home is better for the child since so many parents do take their kids to day care but the truth is if you want to stay home its much much much a million times better for the child to be raised by their parent than a total stranger.

I suggest you sit down with your husband and explain to him that you do have a job, its called being a mother and he needs to wake up and smell the coffee.