crushedinnc

Dear Nurse2008:

I know exactly how you feel. I just found out on Friday that my husband had been emailing his high school girlfriend in January. I demanded to see the emails and wish I hadn't. I am trying so hard to move past this because I love him very much and I truly believe he loves me. We weren't even going through a rough patch (at least not as far as I could tell). I am devastated to think that I could be upstairs putting our girls to bed and he could be downstairs talking to her. The hardest thing for me to get past is that he told her part of his heart would always be hers. He says he has no idea why he said that but I know they had a nasty breakup and he was seeking closure. Of course, I don't understand why he still felt the need for closure after 14 years of marriage to me. To his credit, the emailing didn't last long and was over before I discovered it but how do I trust him? I guess I should take some solace in the fact that he came to his senses and ended things himself.

The other difficult part for me is that, in order to move past this and restore our relationship, I don't want to discuss it with people who know us personally. I would welcome any advice you can share with me on how you are moving past this. Please feel free to send a private message if you would like.

Thank you and I wish you all the best.